29 April 2006

Conversation at Taco Bueno

"This will be fun!" Susan put her elbows on the table and leaned in to speak to me. "So, any potential little boyfriends in the group?"

"For you?" I asked, picking a loose piece of lettuce off the table.

"No," she laughed, looking at the guy sitting next to her. "Already got one. I meant for you."

"Oh... no."

"Aww, Carey."

"I see no point in dating right now. When I do, it will be to pursue a serious relationship. I don't want to just 'date around.'"

"Oh..." Susan stared at me with a blank look. "That's... a good idea. That's smart." She turned to the others and quickly changed the subject. I returned to quietly eating my fajita.


At 01 May, 2006 05:28, Blogger The IBEX Scribe said...

"I see no point in dating right now. When I do, it will be to pursue a serious relationship. I don't want to just 'date around.'"

Amen! It is sad that it should meet such a response.

I love fajitas!

At 01 May, 2006 05:44, Blogger Redeemed said...

Amen Carey. "Dating" is for a purpose of marriage. It is serious.

I hear ya! I don't want to just date around either.

At 01 May, 2006 07:11, Blogger Carey said...

So glad I have some kindred spirits! Wish you two lived closer.

At 01 May, 2006 07:55, Blogger The IBEX Scribe said...

Move to the Northeast and we would both be closer! ;)

At 01 May, 2006 10:17, Blogger Ednella said...

Yeah, I don't plan on dating around either... not like I'm old enough yet. Then again, most kids in the public school start "dating" at around 4th or 5th grade.

At 01 May, 2006 11:44, Blogger Zunietoone said...

I love that your not scared to stick up for what you think!

At 01 May, 2006 14:30, Blogger Carey said...

Angie - I'd like to move to the Northwest. Maybe after I finish my BA.

Nella - That a girl! 4th and 5th grade?! Whoah. I remember thinking my peers crazy when they dated in junior high. Even some of the girls I disciple are "dating" (but not when I'm through with them).

Danielle - Thank you. That's one of the best compliments I could ever receive.

At 01 May, 2006 17:50, Blogger Julia said...


At 02 May, 2006 04:50, Blogger Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

Your views on dating are very wise.

At 03 May, 2006 06:11, Blogger Palm boy said...

Well, thats a way to kill a conversation. :D

At 03 May, 2006 15:15, Blogger Carey said...

Haha. You can continue if you like, Robert. Please feel free to present your opinions on this subject.

At 08 May, 2006 06:31, Blogger anyoneUSA said...

How exactly do you know if its the right man for a serious relationship if you don't "date around"? I mean, "Dating around" is sort of a necessary precursor to a serious relationship. unless of course you have an arranged marriage or something...

At 08 May, 2006 09:47, Blogger Carey said...

You watch and wait. There are ways of getting to know a person quite well without actually going on a "date."

Watch - for me this is usually a very long period of time. How does he act around his friends? Parents? Siblings? Younger children? Authority? There is so much you can't find out by just "going out."

Wait - If this really is the person God has for you, then your lives will, in a sense, "parallel." You will be heading in the same direction. Marriage is two people running a race together.

Dating around is really pointless if you believe that God has someone picked out for you. There is no need for you to "look for that special someone." God will bring that person to you. Think of all the Biblical marriages - Adam and Eve, Isaac and Rebecca, etc. God brought those couples together.


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